Myth: You should try to change your partner to fit your idea of the perfect partner.
Fact: It's essential to embrace and cherish your partner for the unique person they are. Each of us has our own special qualities that make us who we are, and it's important to acknowledge and appreciate those differences. Instead of trying to mould your partner into your ideal, try sharing your desires in a loving and understanding way.
As you grow together, remember to keep doing the things you did the first year you were dating
No two individuals are alike. And expecting that one’s partner would be similar to us in every way would be unfair. It puts pressure on the relationship which might lead to conflicts in the long run. It is important that both partners feel free and unconfined in a relationship for it to nurture.
We tried hobby swapping and found a whole new world of things to do together. Who knew? Turns out I actually liked some of his hobbies! Now we have a whole list of shared interests, and our bond is stronger than ever!
Over time and after quite a few conflicts, I realized an important thing - I should keep the conversation focused on the issue at hand and not criticize my partner at the core of their character. That’s the difference between complaint and criticism.
You know that saying, "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy"? It's true for relationships too. If you're just going to run errands, discuss chores, and then zone out in front of the television for "fun," you're missing a whole level of connection.