It may not be something we often consider, but frequently forgetting important dates or events can have a significant impact on the connection we share with our loved ones.

Keep Forgetting Days That Matter to Your Partner? Try This

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According to a study published in the journal BMC Geriatrics, forgetfulness is a common concern across different age groups, affecting approximately 20% of adults globally.

Did you know that consistent forgetfulness can affect our relationships and emotional well-being? It may not be something we often consider, but frequently forgetting important dates or events can have a significant impact on the connection we share with our loved ones. This article explores how forgetfulness can influence our relationships and what you can try as a partner to get better.

Not just India, it’s a WorldWide Problem

  • A survey conducted by the National Opinion Research Center (NORC) at the University of Chicago revealed that forgetting important dates or events can cause conflict and strain in romantic relationships for up to 25% of couples.
  • According to the American Psychological Association (APA), forgetfulness can play a role in relationship dissatisfaction and reduced relationship quality.

So What’s the Headway….

In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it's easy for important dates and events to slip through the cracks. For some couples, this can become a recurring issue that leads to disappointment and strain in their relationship. However, with a little bit of effort and the help of modern technology, couples can find a solution that strengthens their emotional bond and ensures that no important moments are forgotten. 

In this article, we explore the power of shared calendars and how they can help you remember the things that matter to your partner. You can no longer use your busy schedule as an excuse :)

The Forgetfulness Struggle

Forgetting anniversaries, birthdays, or special occasions like the first date, the day he/she said yes, the engagement day, parents’ birthday or any such special days and such occasions, can be disheartening for both partners. It often leaves the person on the receiving end feeling undervalued, unimportant, or even hurt.

Alternatively think about how your partner would feel, if you remembered these days and planned something, even if it’s a small gesture like cooking a meal, buying a flower, etc. Such small gestures can go a long way in showing you care.

To shed light on this common issue, we reached out to Dr. Latha. R Janaki, is a renowned Indian psychologist from Tamil Nadu specializing in relationship dynamics. According to her, forgetfulness can stem from various factors, including stress, busy schedules, and a lack of effective communication. She emphasizes that addressing forgetfulness is crucial to maintaining emotional intimacy within a relationship.

Real-Life Experience: Priya & Rahul Chadha's Story

We spoke to Priya, who faced this very challenge with her husband, Rahul. Priya revealed that Rahul's forgetfulness of important dates often left her feeling unappreciated and emotionally distant. However, instead of letting this issue fester, they proactively sought a solution via Dr Latha R. Janki.

The Turning Point

Recognizing the need for change, Priya and Rahul decided to explore different strategies. Through their journey, and discussions with their family counsellor, they discovered the power of shared calendars. Priya explains, "We realized that the root of our problem was not Rahul's lack of care but rather his struggle to keep track of important dates amidst his busy work schedule." With Dr Latha's guidance, they implemented a shared calendar system that transformed their relationship.

What is a Shared Calendar Solution

The shared calendar approach involves using digital calendars or apps that allow both partners to input and access important dates, events, and reminders. Priya shares, "We started using Google Calendar. It became our central hub for all significant occasions and commitments." By adopting this method, Priya and Rahul experienced a remarkable shift in their relationship dynamics. Let's understand how, from Dr. Latha.

Enhancing Emotional Intimacy

Dr Latha explains, "When partners actively participate in managing their schedules and ensuring that important moments are not overlooked, it sends a powerful message of love, respect, and consideration. And they also create good memories by working on shared events or dates. This leads to better emotional intimacy. 

Here Priya adds, "Also by sharing the responsibility of maintaining the calendar, couples engage in open communication and collaboration, leading to a deeper emotional connection. When couples actively contribute to the calendar, it creates a sense of shared responsibility, allowing both partners to feel seen and valued. we felt the same!"

Rahul's Perspective

Rahul, also shared his experience with the shared calendar solution.

"Using the shared calendar not only helped me remember important dates, but it also made me more involved in our relationship. It's like a constant reminder of the little things that matter to Priya.

I realized that I was emotionally hurting her, even if unknowingly. It was creating unnecessary stress and was also affecting her health in various ways. After all, she manages the home, my parents, her parents and all. So I knew I had to be involved. How was the question, and shared calendars actually come as a magical solution? But remember, magic cannot happen overnight. You have to pay heed to those common reminders. Take them seriously and do the needful. 

The Takeaway

Rahul's active participation in managing their shared calendar demonstrated his commitment to their relationship's emotional well-being. In the realm of forgetfulness, the shared calendar solution becomes a beacon of hope, bringing couples closer together. With open communication, mutual involvement, and the support of digital tools, couples can strengthen their emotional bond, ensuring that no special moment goes unnoticed in the journey of love.


The opinions expressed within this interview are the personal opinions of the protagonist/protagonists. The facts & statistics, the work profile details of the protagonist/ protagonists do not reflect the views of Baely or the Journalist. Neither Baely nor the Journalist hold any responsibility or liability for the same.

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Mahima Sharma
Mahima Sharma is a Senior Journalist based in Delhi NCR. She has been in the field of TV, Print & Online Journalism since 2005 and previously an additional three years in allied media.
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